To the Person Who Does Not Feel OK
Before I start off on the reasons why We’re OK, I want to say, It’s OK to not be OK. My intention in writing these letters is not to pressure you into being happy.
You Don’t Need to Pretend that You’re OK at all Times
There’s no shame in feeling down. Not being OK is pretty much a requirement in a life well-lived. Struggles and challenges are what makes us grow and interesting. But of course, when you’re in the middle of the drama, you’re not going to feel OK.
In those moments, you need to acknowledge that you’re not OK. Burying your head in the sand isn’t the answer. Feel that anger. Feel the fear, the sadness, or the embarrassment behind that anger. Name them to help you understand what is important to you. Wallow if you need to. Don’t be afraid to make other people uncomfortable with your raw emotions.
When You’re Ready for the Next Step
Eventually, though, you’ll reach a point when you’re ready to move on. You get tired of the drama. Tired of seeing yourself as the victim. You feel ready for a change.
That’s when I want you to remember these letters. I want you to remember that no matter what happens, you do always have the option to feel OK with whatever happened in the end. There’s always a different perspective that you haven’t seen yet.
I am a recovering perfectionist and a doormat who kept my anger hidden away so deep, I didn’t even know I had them. So I know first hand how destructive buried emotions can be. You don’t have to shout it from the mountain tops if you don’t want to. But at least acknowledge it to yourself if you’re not feeling OK.
When you stop judging yourself for not being OK, you can open a path to inner peace.
With Love,
Sono